I will never forget that Thanksgiving.
One of my grandsons came home from pre-school with a nasty stomach bug a week before Thanksgiving break. It quickly spread to his older brother and his parents, my son and daughter-in-law. “Oh, poor them!” I thought.
Before long, my daughter-in-law’s family began showing symptoms of the horrible bug. First her mom and dad, then her brother, uncle, cousins, and grandma. “Oh, poor them!” I thought.
Of course, our family was next. First, the son visiting from Oregon (but, oddly, not his wife), then my husband, and finally, two days before Thanksgiving, me. “Oh, poor us!” I thought.
We got together that Thanksgiving Day at my daughter-in-law’s parents’ house, hollow-eyed and wan. I thought no one could possibly eat Thanksgiving dinner after what we had been through, but we did, gingerly and with much hesitation.
We nibbled at the turkey, tentatively ate some bland mashed potatoes, looked at the vegetables without much interest, and waited until the following day for dessert.
The illness started with the smallest one in our group, then spread like wildfire. It was amazing, I thought, the way ripples unfurled in ever-widening circles, enveloping more and more people in our own little epidemic. Similar to a pebble tossed in a pond.
My grandson, of course, did not throw the pebble. It was cast by fate and the virus. He was blameless for his role in the whole affair.
I believe; however, we sometimes fling pebbles that set off an unintended set of ripples. Those ripples are difficult, if not impossible, to stop or reverse.
When we speak harshly to a child, whether it is out of frustration, tiredness, stress, or anger, we toss a pebble.
When we mistreat a loyal and trusting pet who has no recourse but to cower, we toss a pebble.
When we ignore a friend’s request for help, leave a poor tip for a server, cut another driver off in traffic, lie to make ourselves look good – pebble, pebble, pebble, pebble.
I fear some in our country have lately been hurling stones of hate, divisiveness, and violence. They are initiating ripples that, once unloosed, cannot easily be called back.
We need reminders to lob the correct kinds of pebbles. When we send out pebbles of love and compassion, the resulting ripples soothe rather than agitate.
When we return an unkind word with a tender rejoinder, we toss a pebble.
When we express our gratitude, we toss a pebble.
When we laugh at a friend’s joke, lend a sympathetic ear, make eye contact and greet people with a smile, hold the door for a stranger, say “I’m sorry” when necessary – and mean it, we toss pebbles. When we accept responsibility for our actions, clean up our own mess, arrive promptly when meeting others, and generously offer our help to those who need it, we are launching pebbles that cause ripples of acceptance, kindness, generosity.
We don’t have to make a huge, grand gesture. Big gestures are sometimes more about the giver than the receiver anyway. Waiting for the opportunity to make a colossal effort sometimes blinds us to the small achievements we can make every day.
We make a difference in the world the same way we build God’s Kingdom – brick by brick, one after another. With consistent but significant slight endeavors.
One pebble at a time.
Let us all be mindful of the pebbles we hurl out into the world.
Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.
– Galatians 6:7
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what a lovely life lesson, and one that should never be forgotten
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Thank you, Beth.
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Well said!
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Thank you!
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Thoughts worth thinking about, Laurie. I hope you have a nice week.
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I hope your week is good too, Dan!
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Wow! So good, Laurie!
“We make a difference in the world the same way we build God’s Kingdom – brick by brick, one after another. With consistent but significant slight endeavors.
One pebble at a time.”
I had never thought about it like that, but that is so true.
Thank you for sharing! Praying that you have an awesome week!
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Thank you, Tai. Each of us can make a difference. You have a good week too.
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Good word!
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Thank you!
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So love that analogy, and so true. Great reminder for the actions our pebbles create sometimes mindlessly. I like that word mindful. Maybe should choose that for my word of the year. Have safe and blessed week for you and family.
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Ohhh…mindful would be a great word of the year. I am trying to increase my mindfulness this year too. Thank you!
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Another beautiful, insightful post, Laurie 😉 SO true…those innocent pebbles can do far more damage than anyone could imagine. While I have not “lost” any friends through the turmoil of the past year, there are many that I feel quite distanced from as a result of their hatred and rude discourse. If nothing else, the past year has opened my eyes to such pebbles, and has made me even more guarded with the ones I choose to throw. Great post ❤
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Thank you, Kim. I have had the same experience as you. I try to always return comments left on my blog and at times, I was just at a loss of words when I read some really hateful blog posts. Most of the posts I read, however, have been positive and encouraging. That’s why unsettling ones stand out so much in my mind.
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One pebble at a time . . . May what we toss into the water of this world ripple for the good and God’s kingdom.
Blessings, Laurie!
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Yes, let’s toss pebbles that work for God’s good! Blessings, Martha.
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I really like the metaphor that, when we throw stones, they leave ripples in water that can’t be called back.
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Thank you, Dennis.
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I never thought about it, but it is so true: “big gestures are sometimes more about the giver than the receiver“.
Most of these small pebbles don’t even cost anything, not even time.
Thank you, Laurie!
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I must admit, Catrina…I was thinking about myself when I wrote that line. I need to work on throwing lots of small pebbles. Thank you!
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Just the very smallest of smiles is sometimes all it takes to turn someone’s day around. We do indeed reap what we sow.
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You are so right! Did you learn that from being a teacher? I think I did!
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Great post. It is amazing how fast the bad things spread but it takes so much longer for the good things.
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Thank you, Janet. Yes – bad stuff does seem to spread faster right now. I am hoping that will soon change!
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What a beautiful message Laurie ❤️
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Thank you, Kellie!
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Fantastic post, I often wonder when we do something kind how far does it go & often we will never know, but it is fun thinking about it. Thankfully our family has never had that chuck bug, all our other friends have but we must have a anti bug gene. lol
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Thank you! I definitely wish our family would have had that gene! 🙂
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Laurie I love that idea of a pebble spreading soft waves, the reverberations. And you’re so right that people are quick to point the finger. I mean, other than purposely putting yourself at risk of something most people remain blameless. Victims themselves.
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I agree with your comment about victims. We need to address this martyr complex. I am especially discouraged when I see it in the church.
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One pebble at a time. I truly look forward to your posts each week – they make me stop and think – and stopping and thinking is something I rarely do.
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Hi Laurie – you’re so right about the positive effects of small actions (and the opposite with thoughtless acts). I’m so grateful to live in a country without the tumult that I’m seeing elsewhere, I’m grateful for the fact that we’ve had no community covid cases for months – we’re cruising along and every day I smile because life is good – choose your attitude, choose your actions, take responsibility, choose love, choose gratitude – it’s not hard really is it?
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Yes!!! Count your blessings, Leanne. Our country is in so much turmoil due to the pandemic and election issues. There is a lot of community spread.
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I agree Laurie, we need to be throwing different kinds of pebbles, especially these days. Take care #lifethisweek
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We need all the love and kindness we can get these days!
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What a beautiful lesson.
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Thank you, Tamar!
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little things can make a huge difference – over 20 years ago I saw a friend after some months apart and told her about a book I read on after death life experiences of folks who tried commit suicide and didn’t go to the light. She then told me she had been contemplating suicide but because of my words about how we are pebbles in a pond, she changed her mind. #MMBC
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Wow! That is amazing, Carol! What a good pebble you threw when you talked to your friend.
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As I read your words, Laurie, I thought of how calming and relaxing it is to stand still and skip stones across the top of the water. It is not the same thing as throwing them in the water to create the biggest splash 🙂 May my words skip over the souls of others creating a gentle ripple of God’s peace.
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My grandsons and I love to skip stones. I love your metaphor!
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“the correct kinds of pebbles” Now there is an idea whose time has come. Would make a great name for a blog, too. 🤔
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Thank you, Ally. I like “Correct Pebbles” as a name for a band too! 🙂
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I heard that rimshot, I truly did. Great post, thank you for sharing these thoughts and not keeping them to yourself. Love the picture of the pebbles too. Blessings, Michele #LIfethisweek
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I think if I tried to keep them to myself, I would explode! 🙂 Thank you, Michele. Blessings to you.
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Oh I’m so sorry that nasty bug ruined Thanksgiving for you. I can remember times when we have all been struck down at the same time too, usually just as school holidays begin. You are so right with your pebbles analogy though, more the ripples we cause. A favourite author of mine always talked about ripples and how they continue long after we are gone. They are so important and we really should be mindful of each one.
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Thank you, Anne. It was not a pleasant Thanksgiving! I need a reminder to think about the ripples I cause. Maybe that’s why I wrote the post! 🙂
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The ripple effect. Sadly, we’re living through the ripple effect big time these days. But God has already written the end of the story, and He can use us to create ripples that will spread His love and peace in directions we can’t even imagine.
A wonderful post, Laurie. So full of hope and a right perspective …
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Yes, it certainly is sad, Linda. I think the verse from Galatians sums it up. We are now reaping what we have sowed. God will not be mocked.
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Oh, Laurie, this makes me pause and reflect how we respond to one another just within the walls of my home. A parent’s frustration with a child–and then we get on that kid’s case for how he talks to his sister. Yes. The pebble! Be so mindful of which pebble I throw! Thank you for this–it is something I can so easily call up. Remember the pebble. Heck–carry one in my pocket. Just the kind of tool I need for my ‘knee-jerk reaction toolbox.’ Thank you.
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I love that idea of carrying a pebble in my pocket as a reminder! Thank you for suggesting this tangible reminder to be mindful of the pebbles I throw!
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This is lovely and so true. May all your unintended pebbles be good ones. #mmbc
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Thank you, Cheryl. Yours too!
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Thank you for sharing such a beautiful post. This is very encouraging. Blessings.
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Thank you for your kind comment! 🙂
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Lovely and relatable parable. Your story of different kinds of pebbles reminds me of those colorfully painted stones we come by every so often on our walks. Someone took the time to paint the rock and place it somewhere it could be found and make a stranger smile.
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Oh, I never thought about those painted rocks. I wish I had. I would have added them into the story. My grandsons and I have painted and hidden them.
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May we toss the good kind of pebbles and make the right kind of waves.
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Absolutely, Barbara. We need to be aware of the kinds of pebbles we toss! 🙂
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Excellent reminder! Thank you 🙂
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Thank you! I need the reminders too! 🙂
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Yes, our little words and actions can have a big impact. It’s good to be mindful of that and to try to throw good pebbles.
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So true, Lesley. We should all try to throw good pebbles. 🙂
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This is a powerful reminder of the intensity of words and actions. I see divisiveness destroying our country and I am crushed that it can easily grow to epic proportions if we let it.
We make a difference in the world the same way we build God’s Kingdom – brick by brick, one after another. With consistent but significant slight endeavors. YES!
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Thank you, Mary. Our words are important. I hope the divisiveness can begin to abate.
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I would like to go back in time and unthrow some pebbles. Since that is not possible, I will trust for grace to be more mindful going forward.
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Oh, I do too! If only some of those pebbles could make the leap back into my hand! 🙂
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Oh I completely agree; I think social media and not saying so many of our thoughts face to face have allowed us as a society to become rather complacent about remembering simple kindnesses– which is why I really don’t use any of them anymore!
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Yes, social media does afford a certain amount of insulation from face-to-face communication. I don’t think this is a good thing.
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Such a timely post, Laurie. I’m with you in the goal to throw lots of positive and pretty pebbles! More than ever our world needs them.
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We do need them right now. More than ever. Thank you, Nancy.
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I hope we can throw out pebbles of kindness more … after all we should remember we reap what we sow. Sorry your extended family had to come down with that bug and on a long holiday weekend gathering as important as Thanksgiving on top of it. You are right – it was not your grandson’s fault for spreading that bug. I recognize Bill in the picture – so you took the photo as I don’t see your smiling face?
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I hope so too, Linda. I was watching the inauguration today and I think our whole country is going to move in that direction because that is the way this president is taking us – away from divisiveness and hate. Oh, that bug was awful! We were all down and out. I am in the photo – in the front with the pink/purple dress.
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I just returned to the post and I don’t know how I missed you yesterday, but saw Bill – he is taller. 🙂 Sometimes at the end of the day, my eyes get a little blurry on this laptop. I watched highlights of the inauguration – I agree with you Laurie. So much class and so much hope for a better tomorrow and beyond and wiping away a lot of the old ideas and edits too.
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I can imagine your eyes get blurry! After working on the computer all day, then blogging before or after, your eyes probably need a break!
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Tonight I just got here – we had computer issues at work and we have a Zoom hearing Monday and exhibits have to be filed at the NLRB by tomorrow. The Windows 10 laptop that’s been sitting unused since June 2019 is a two inch bigger screen than this one … by the time the computer guy gets around to getting us fully set up on Windows 10, I’ll be using that laptop in retirement. It would be my preference it was a Mac as I know they are superior (I know you said you had one), but I cannot use a Mac to get into a Windows-based network, so I muddle along in Windows a while longer.
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The butterfly effect, I think they call it. Yes, we never fully realize the consequences of our small and even sometimes unseen actions. Thanks for the reminder!
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Yes! I have heard that “butterfly” saying before. That’s exactly it. Lots of interconnectedness.
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You have certainly raised our awareness of the connections that may be small end up having subsequently large effects. Thank you. On a completely related note, we had a 10th Birthday party planned at home for our daughter and with people travelling across the city and her friends attending, we did not put it off when her younger brother began vomiting. Oh. My. That virus spread to all attendees over the next few days and I so learned a lesson there!
We here in Australia are awaiting the new President’s inauguration and sending all the good wishes we can for a peaceful and helpful transition….and for proper and better COVID beating strategies to be found.
Thank you for sharing your post in Life This Week, the Monday link up on my blog. Each Monday, there is an optional prompt but you can link up a post (just one) old or new, on or off prompt. Next week’s is 4/51 Cannot. 25 Jan.Hope to see you back here then. Denyse.
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Oh, no! So sorry to hear about your family’s encounter with the dreaded stomach bug! It’s awful! I cried during Joe Biden’s inauguration. Happy tears! It feels so good to be hopeful about the direction of our country again. Thank you for hosting. Hope to see you next week!
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Love the pebble analogy, Laurie. Yes, we all should try to throw good pebbles.
Thanks for the reminder!
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Thank you, Veronica. I need the reminder to throw good pebbles too!
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Laurie, I’m saving this post. You wrote a beautiful story with such a vivid and poignant lesson. I like a song by The Isaac’s named “Rocks”. Thank you for this beautiful message. And, your family is beautiful! 💚❤️♥️
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I am going to look up that song. Thank you for the good recommendation! 🙂
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You’re so welcome! 😊 take care 💚
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Laurie, I love this analogy of the pebbles. How often we fail to realize that every action and word good or bad sends out ripples, many far reaching. Thank you for the reminder to choose carefully that those ripples may accomplish good for the Kingdom and not tear down or hinder!
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Yes. I have unfortunately thrown some pebbles I wish I could take back. Thank you, Donna.
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I’m late in catching up with this post, but it seems perfect for Inauguration Day. Here’s to tossing the best pebbles we can find going forward!
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A lot of good, healthy pebbles were cast yesterday! 🙂
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Such a thoughtful and lovely post Laurie. Kind, loving and positive pebbles are my favourite kind. I think things will start to improve in your country from this point on. Inclusiveness rather than divisiveness, compassion rather than hate, kindness rather than spite. They always win. xo
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Thank you, Min. I think are looking up for my country too. Yesterday was such a hopeful day!
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I’ve not thought of them as pebbles, but I did realize early (being on the wrong end of many words) that words matter and should be thought out first, no matter our mood.
Thank you for linking up at ‘My Corner of the World’ this week!
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Yes…once those words are out there, you can’t call them back.
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Such a beautiful sentiment of creating good ripples with our pebbles. I hope you have an amazing Thanksgiving this year to make up for the one before!
Thanks so much for sharing with #MMBC. 🙂
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Thank you, Jayne. I am hoping for a good Thanksgiving this year too!
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I needed to read this today. Someone has thrown a pebble in one of the spaces I inhabit and and it has indeed created ripples. Causing a lot of people a great deal of anxiety. You’ve reminded me of how to handle it. Thanks!
Sounds like a terrible virus. I hope you’re all fighting fit again now
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I am so sorry you are left to deal with that negativity. Hope you are able to transcend.
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