The Art of the Humblebrag

Meditations in Motion

“Nothing is more deceitful than the appearance of humility. It is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast.” – Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

Over 220 years ago, when Jane Austin wrote Pride and Prejudice, she was already warning us about the humblebrag.

In case you are unfamiliar with the term, a humblebrag is when you want to boast about something, but pretend to be modest about it. A humblebrag would be something like this: “Ugh! Even wearing no makeup and with my hair in a ponytail, guys just keep hitting on me. So annoying!” Or this: ” Why am I always given the most demanding, prestigious projects to work on?

If bragging makes people dislike you, humblebragging makes them dislike you even more. We can spot false modesty a mile away.

Meditations in Motion

True humility is vastly different from the fake kind. True humility reflects great self-confidence; false humility just the opposite. We humblebrag because we recognize the fact that no one likes a show-off, but we still feel the need to indulge in self-promotion.

When we humblebrag, we ostensibly confide in others about our weaknesses or problems. In reality, what we are doing is drawing attention to one of our positive attributes.

When we cultivate true humility, we appreciate our own value and the value of others. We honestly recognize our strengths and weaknesses and acknowledge our limitations. Humility forces us to admit that we are fallible human beings; it forces us to appreciate our true worth.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” Philippians 2:3

I am sorry to have to cut this post short. I am worn out from responding to the many comments I received on my last post.ย  ๐Ÿ˜‰

 

I am linking with Ceeโ€™s FOTD Challenge, Welcome Heart for Letโ€™s Have Coffee, Soaring with Him for Recharge Wednesday, Debbie at Dare 2 Hear, Crystal Storms for Heart Encouragement, Rachel Marie Lee, Amy at Live Life Well, Raisie Bay for Word of the Week, Susan B Mead for Dancing With Jesus, Embracing the Unexpected for Grace and Truth, Random-osity for Little Things Thursdays, Reflections From Me for A Blogging Good Time, Itโ€™s a Small Town Life for Thankful Thursday, Knit by Godโ€™s Hand for Thankful Thursdays, Morganโ€™s Milieu for Post, Comment, Love, Counting My Blessings for Faith โ€˜n Friends, and Worth Beyond Rubies.

Please click on the following link to read more funny or inspirational one-liners. One-Liner Wednesday.

1LinerWed

ย 

 

 

 

Advertisements

71 comments

  1. I see what you did there! ๐Ÿ™‚ You are so right, humblebragging is terribly annoying. I much prefer someone who is confident enough to share their good news with others (just don’t go overboard on us mere mortals). Now, get back to replying to all those comments!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Funny you should mention your last post – and the number of comments because I actually have comment to chime in with (if it was the one about speech and words)
    And here – you introduced a new word to me! And just this week I was at a blog where the blogger did this (said her photos were not so bad if she does say so herself) and it did not sit right – but the rest of the post was fine anyhow
    I think many of people have to find that happy balance with confidence versus cockiness

    Oh there is a fine line!
    And we do not have to shrink with our gifts or be afraid to celebrate a strength
    But the pride that leads to a humble brag is from character issues (in my opinion) and pride has a destructive side
    – and my closing thought is that it is God who allows us to cultivate and develop humility and if not for the grace of God – oh my goodness how puffed up some of us could be….

    Liked by 1 person

  3. This was wonderful. I read your post after spending part of my morning bragging about my granddaughterโ€™s soccer abilities to some park friends! I donโ€™t think it was a humblebrag but youโ€™ve certainly given me some food for thought!

    Now, getting that out of the way, may I bend your ear and tell you all about my 7 year old granddaughterโ€™s incredible footwork skills that she learned from humble olโ€™ me? ๐Ÿคฃ (Jk… she learned it from her Mom).

    Great piece, Laurie!

    Susan

    Liked by 1 person

    • I had the same response when I first read this quote and it reminded me of the term. “Do I do that???” Actually, I think I may be guilty of humblebragging on occasion, but I am more (self) aware of it now.

      Liked by 1 person

  4. We live in such a comparison world anymore where sadly, I think people need to do that to feel their WORTH… unfortunate.
    Thanks for this post.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Yes. We want to brag, but we don’t want to come across as bragg-y, so we couch our boast in humblebrag terms. It just makes the brag even worse! ๐Ÿ™‚

      Like

  5. That last line made me chuckle. I am sure most of us have been guilty of a humblebrag at one time or another! Itโ€™s interesting to reflect on the difference between true humility and false humility. I never thought of true humility as reflecting great self-confidence before but I can see how that would be the case. Food for thought. #WotW

    Liked by 1 person

  6. sometimes a lot of people just don’t want to hear you talking about your life and accuse you of showing off or bragging, so by playing it down a little, it can make it easier. however what I’ve noticed the most is people just want you to be honest about your life, until you share the good stuff then you’re just bragging. can’t please all the people, all the time #pocolo

    Liked by 1 person

    • Haha! So true! You can’t win sometimes. I follow a lot of runners on social media and writing about running exploits is the norm. Other people might find it bragg-y but runners do it all the time.

      Like

  7. Oh my, you crack me up!! LOL. I love this though, and may be guilty of a few myself :/.

    Thanks for linking up @LiveLifeWell!

    Blessings,

    Amy

    Liked by 1 person

  8. I’ll be honest, it was the Peacock image that got my attention to this post but I love what you wrote here. Humblebrag, can’t say I’ve ever heard that term before…but what an awesome description. PS. if you liked the Dragonflies…stay tuned…I have Peacocks coming soon ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s