Seeing How Someone Changed Your Heart

Meditations in Motion

Gratitude is seeing how someone changed your heart and quality of life, helped you become the good parts of the person you are.Anne Lamott

We influence people we interact with in ways both intended and unintended.

As a young teacher and parent, I had little comprehension of the opportunity I had to impact the lives of children. My message then, if I had one at all, was to be kind, patient, and responsible. I tried to teach youngsters to use their talents in ways that would benefit others. I encouraged them to grow, stretch, explore and seek answers.

Readers of this blog know that my hubby Bill and I have been married for a very long time – more than 40 years. We have influenced each other’s thoughts and actions in many ways, mostly for the better.

When I look into Bill’s eyes, I see the best version of myself shining back at me. My dream is to live up to his image of me.

Bill has made me more honest, forthright and practical. I believe I have made him more generous and more willing to try new things. I am a better person because of his influence and am extremely grateful for everything he has taught me. Some of the lessons were easy, some were painful, all were valuable.

What message are you sending to those whose lives intersect with yours?

In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16

*It is my plan to document the arrival of spring here in this corner of Southeastern Pennsylvania through the progression of blooming flowers. This is the second picture in the series. The flowers pictured above are Winter Aconite (Eranthis hyemalis). The day after I took the picture, snow covered all the delicate late-winter flowers in our area.


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  1. I’m not going to use the word “spring” about life in Maine, but I’m sure encouraged by the spring sightings down there! Right now our driveway is a sheet of ice, and the temp was at zero as we ate breakfast.
    Love the way you described your 40 years with your husband. You’re ten years ahead of me, but that’s something to shoot for!

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    • Oh, no! Maine weather sounds like Colorado weather to me. My son, DIL and 1 grandson live in CO. they asked us if we would be interested in moving there after we retire, but it is just too much winter for me! I will have to be satisfied with visits.

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  2. Beautiful flowers! I haven’t seen any flowers yet in the high desert, but we’ve had a lot of moisture this winter, so I’m hoping for some beautiful blooms :). I love how we can sharpen and be sharpened by the ones with live with and love. It’s not always comfortable, but it is good.

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  3. You just reminded me to walk around the corner of my house to see if our winter flowers are blooming! I can’t remember what they’re called, but look something like open white roses.

    I love the things that my husband and I have done that makes the other a better version of themself. It makes me smile just thinking about it. 🙂

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  4. At least you get some flowers even if they’re covered by snow now! We have to wait a long time.

    I know I have influenced my husband, but not as much as I’d like to sometimes, LOL! And yes, he has certainly influenced me as well. We joke we’ve been married for 30+ years, but only together for about 20 maybe (because there have been a lot of times in our marriage where we either actually lived apart and/or he travel so much it was almost as if we did).

    So many people have had an influence in my life, and because I haven’t lived in the same area for the majority of my life, the cast of characters seems ever-changing.

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    • I found a crocus today, but my phone died before I could take a picture. I will have to go out tomorrow and try again to get a photo.

      I can imagine that you have had a lot of people influence your life and vice versa. The more diversity, the better. I have only moved about 10 miles from my hometown.

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      • You still have the most amazing friends, though!

        I would not have been happy living so close to my home. My sister never wanted to be there either, but sadly she ended back there not long before she had her first child, who is in his late 20s. They do plan to move south in the next few years (she’s 7 years older than me, so mid 60s).

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  5. Those are beautiful thoughts and words that you write about the love of your life Laurie. I like watching you document Spring’s arrival – the beautiful dabs of color you have already. All that is up around here are the Snowdrops, Since the weather has been crummy I’ve not interacted with anyone at the Park and last Saturday at the Park, I saw one person on another part of the pathway so no conversations. If I don’t speak to my boss on the phone, days could pass with no human interaction in the Wintertime. (I actually have not seen my boss face-to-face since October 2012 which surprises many people.)

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    • I found a crocus on my walk with Benji today, Linda, but my phone died when I tried to take a picture. We will have to go back tomorrow so I can get it. MY crocus isn’t up yet, though. Blogging is a great way to have some human interaction, even if it is not as good as face-to-face. There is a whole internet of people out here waiting to interact! We have not passed many people on our walks with Benji either. Too cold for many people to be out! For us, that’s good. Benji does not do well when he passes another dog on the path.

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      • Hopefully that crocus is still there tomorrow and no snow has fallen to hide it. I have not seen any peeps of yellow or purple at my next-door neighbor Marge’s house – she had them along the fence line. Yes, blogging is good for me to interact with others – I am behind on my e-mail a lot of the time now due to blogging. The person I e-mail with the most is my friend Evelyn. She quit her legal secretary job and started grad school in the Fall of 2017. She is the same age s you/me. She graduates this Fall and has started a 600-hour internship at a nursing home. She is studying gerontology administration. She travels 70 miles round trip on the three days per week she goes (from Richmond, Virginia to Charlottesville, Virginia). On the days there is no school or internship, I am inundated with e-mails. I try merging them into one e-mail and respond that way, and then end up with another five or six the next day she is in her e-mail. Hard to keep up sometimes and especially with those who are not bloggers. I have to try and write something – probably for the first of March. No walks this week due to wind, then snow. It’s good when dogs have the path to themselves. Someone often insists on being “King of the Road” unfortunately.

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      • I got the photo of the crocus. I will try to focus it in my next week’s Wednesday post. Bill and I will be in Costa Rica, but I can always schedule it to appear even if I’m not home. This was along a south-facing wall. Wow! Your friend Evelyn sounds like an amazing woman. I can’t even imagine going back to graduate school. I got my Master’s in Education while I was teaching. That was a lot of work, but I enjoyed the classes I took and found them to be useful. So sorry to hear that the weather is making it tough for you to get out. I wonder how your furry pals are doing without you!

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      • Good for you Laurie … a touch of Spring for us to see. Costa Rica – you will have such a nice time in the sun and warmth, not to mention those beautiful flowers and birds. I’ve never been there, but I’ve seen pictures. Evelyn got her first Master’s degree in Social Work in 1979 or 1980. She could not find a job in her field. She worked for the Government for a while, then became a legal secretary. Same thing happened to me – I could not find a job, and became a legal secretary. She tells me about the courses since she began school – most are online or videos prepared by the professors and groups where they interact with other students in the program. Not at all like college/university as I knew it. It’s admirable you got your M.A. while teaching – that’s a lot of hard work. I am worried about my furry pals, because there are four of us that feed the squirrels – the other three are retired guys, two with heart conditions and they don’t/can’t walk in the cold weather. The third has some walking difficulties. The ground is frozen so they can’t dig up what they buried and it will be extra cold the whole month of March they have announced – below normal temps. I hope to get out tomorrow — Friday night it will snow (again) so Saturday a.m. may be dicey.

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      • Ugh! This snow. We got snow on Thursday night and more on Friday night. I am so ready for some warm sunshine. I hope the squirrels have stored some food. They probably have. I bet they are all warm and cozy in their nests.

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      • We never got the predicted snow and I dropped the ball this morning – figured I’d sleep in as they said we’d have snow overnight and the morning hours – still waiting on the snow! I walked anyway, but I usually try to go a little further and take photos. I was disgusted with the weather and the weathermen – all four sources that I relied on. I told someone at the Park that next Fall when the Halloween candy comes out, I need to get them a couple of bags of baby Snickers bars to tuck away in their nests. That will keep them happy on those Winter days when no humans make it down there due to bad winds, lots of snow or ice. I watched them digging holes for peanuts since August and the ground is way too frozen for digging them up now. Safe travels for your trip to Costa Rica Laurie – I hope I get you before you leave.

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      • We leave on Tuesday. Weathermen are predicting snow here tonight. I hope they miss the mark like yours did and I am hoping to come back to spring-like weather! 🙂

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      • Yes, I just said almost the identical comment to you. We did get snow tonight – I had thought of doing some errands tomorrow morning, but not now – accidents galore and more snow overnight. Doesn’t have to be a lot to be “greasy” and slick on the roads.

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  6. What bright, brave little flowers. 🙂 I don’t recall ever seeing Aconites before? Do you know if they are related to crocuses?

    I love the quotation from Matthew even though it often makes me feel guilty for not shining brighter or more often.

    Making a lasting and rewarding relationship is never an easy thing but it seems to me you both have achieved a great deal in that regard. 🙂

    A wonderful and inspiring post, Laurie!

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    • I don’t know if they are related to crocus, but I would guess they are not. I just got some pictures of the first crocuses of the year. It is supposed to snow tonight. Ugh!

      You, my friend, have nothing to feel guilty about. I think your light shines very brightly. Hubby and I have certainly had our share of struggles along the way. I tend to want things to go MY way most (OK, all) of the time! 🙂 I am very glad we stuck it out. We are in a good place now.

      Thank you for your comment!

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      • Lol at the ‘most (OK All) the time’ 😀

        I had a lookup: it would seem these are not related to crocuses but ranunculus and buttercups! They are also not a ‘true’ Aconite – which is a good thing because Aconites are amongst the most deadly poisonous of all plants!! Pretty, but deadly!

        And I thank you for your kind words.

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  7. Laurie, I loved this post. Hubs and will celebrate 23 years at the end of March. he’s definitely helped me to grow into more of who God designed me to be. I loved what you said about wanting to be all that your husband’s image of you is. Me too. Me too.

    I look forward to seeing your springtime flowers. 🙂 We haven’t got too many in this little spot on the earth yet. Crocuses are usually among the first to come up. I planted some tulip bulbs last year, but I think a squirrel got into them and has probably eaten them. Sigh. I’ll have to try again and see if I can protect them better somehow. 🙂

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    • Thank you, Jeanne. Congratulations on 23 years (almost). Those squirrels! They ate all of my tulip bulbs too. Ugh! I just found some crocuses on our walk today. I will use them in my post next week. Thank you for your comment!

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  8. Hello, wonderful post on your life and love of your life. I like to think both my hubby and I make each other better people. The flowers are beautiful. Enjoy your day, have a great weekend ahead.

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  9. What wise and lovely thoughts today. Thank you for sharing them. The flowers are pretty…I can’t believe you have flowers blooming! Over here in southwestern PA we’ve had a few warmer days, but nothing is blooming yet.

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    • Thank you, Stacy! I can’t believe the difference between the western and eastern parts of the state! Although we just had snow last night, so no flowers are visible today! 🙂


  10. Lovely flowers 🙂 Your post has made me think about the way we influence each other, both in good and bad ways. How lovely that you have been together 40 years. Thanks for linking up to #wotw x

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    • My hubby and I have changed each other in countless ways over the years. Hopefully all for the good! Thank you for the opportunity to link up.


    • Congratulations on 54 years! I am sure that when you reflect, you will be able to pinpoint ways in which you and your hubby compliment each other and bring out the best in the other.

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  11. Lovely post, I feel the same about my husband we have encouraged and brought out so many good qualities in each other. I think the message you passed on to your students is a really good one.

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