How to Build a Better Pavement

Meditations in Motion

Winter returned with a vengeance last week. I was supposed to do a trail run with a friend on Wednesday (the first full day of spring), but could not even get out of our driveway. Our road was not plowed and the road leading to our road wasn’t either. Ugh! This was after a few teaser days when the crocus bloomed, the wild garlic sprouted and the grackles came back from their winter range. I love to hear that grackle-y ka-ching noise they make from the tree tops. Now, I am not typically averse to running in sketchy weather, but this snowstorm was too much for even me. The snow lasted for over 40 hours, and ruined spring’s highly anticipated appearance.

Meditations in Motion

A trail race that I was scheduled to do on Saturday became a road race due to snow blanketing the original course.

Meditations in Motion

During the hours I was snowbound, I rested. I napped, I cooked and I read. I happened to come across an article by Beth Moore that intrigued me. Beth Moore is an interesting person. She is an American evangelist who focuses her ministry on helping women lead their lives according to Christian principles. Ms. Moore and I share different viewpoints on many topics, but there are several topics we agree on. She promotes contemplative prayer, or mindfulness, which is actually one of  the oldest Christian practices, but unusual for an evangelical to advocate. She has no problem teaching men, anathema to conservative Christians, who believe that only men should have leadership positions in the church. One of her more controversial (to evangelicals) precepts is that Catholics are Christians too! But perhaps her most daring action is to have called out conservative Christian (male) leaders for their support of Donald Trump, tweeting “Try to absorb how acceptable the disesteem and objectifying of women has been when some Christian leaders don’t think it’s that big a deal.” This stance caused her to lose supporters, but she remained true to her principles.

Meditations in Motion

The quote from Ms. Moore that initially piqued my interest was this, “Something down the road depends on our present stretch of pavement. ” As a runner, how could that quote not interest me? I have found this to be true every time I have trained for a race. If I want to run across 26.2 miles of pavement tomorrow, I had better train to go long distances today. Ms. Moore, of course, was not referring to running, but the concept is the same. I am a firm believer that what we do today counts. What we do today lays the foundation for our tomorrows. If we are undisciplined today, we may not be able to accomplish our goals in the future. This applies not only to running, of course, but to other parts of our lives.

Meditations in Motion

I believe this concept is especially relevant when we deal with children. In another life, I was a science teacher. I loved teaching with all my heart. I wasn’t a good teacher when I first started, but at least I was smart enough to pay attention to some wonderful mentors who were patient and generous with their guidance. There is no “secret” to being a good teacher, but you have to lay a good foundation in relationships that you build with students, or you will have a rough (probably short) career. You have to make sure you start on the correct section of pavement.

Meditations in Motion

I always started the first day of each year with a challenge activity for students. In one activity students were required to build an “egg catcher” from 10 sheets of paper and a meter of masking tape. The egg catcher had to sit on the floor and prevent a raw egg from breaking when dropped from the ceiling. Extra credit ensued for any group whose egg emerged from the process unscathed. We talked about why some devices worked and some did not. We discussed how their devices could be improved. Then we cleaned up the mess.

Meditations in Motion

This taught the students to work together in a team, to be resourceful, to solve problems. It taught them that we are going to have fun, but we are going to think about the inherent science in our activities. It taught them to clean up after themselves, that it is OK to mess up sometimes, and that our ideas can usually be improved on. It started us on the right road for the year.

Meditations in Motion

I wish I had this quote emblazoned on a poster in my house years ago, and that I had paid more attention and been more aware when my own children were little. I wish I had thought more about my present stretch of pavement when I was a young mother.

Every parent looks at their children and wishes they could have done a better job (I think. Maybe it’s just me!) I often wish I had been more patient, more attentive, more generous, more present.

Meditations in Motion

I have many stories about my kids’ childhoods, but here is a poignant one that I still remember 20 years after the fact. One year on Mothers’ Day my husband was working overtime. He had gone to work early that Sunday morning. My oldest son was already  out of the house, so just my two youngest sons were home. They were probably a pre-teen and a teenager. I decided to go birdwatching while they were still asleep. My youngest son got up and, without realizing that I wasn’t home, made oatmeal pancakes for me for Mothers’ Day breakfast in bed. He took them into my room, saw that I was gone, and ate them himself. All alone. When I got home and he told me what had happened, my heart just broke in two! I still can’t forgive myself 20 years later. I wish I had that stretch of pavement back, but it’s too late.

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As we get older, and the pavement ahead of us shortens, I think we have a greater ability to pay attention to our present stretch of pavement. Maybe it’s because I don’t have the stresses of managing a young family on a shoestring budget any longer, but I am more patient, more calm and generous with my grandchildren than I ever was with my own kids. There is a Pennsylvania Dutch saying that goes something like this, “We get too soon old and too late smart“.  Children are like mirrors: they reflect what they see. If they see compassion, nurturing and kindness, that is the type of person they will grow up to be. Isn’t that what our society needs? It all depends on your present stretch of pavement!

I am linking up with Jamie Sumner for Sunday Thoughts. Visit here for faith-based posts from many other bloggers.

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13 comments

  1. Lovely post. How wise of you to take your snow day and explore a different perspective — and find points of deep agreement, as we almost always can with people of good will. As for your motherly regrets: I have cringeworthy memories of myself as a young (and even middle-of-the journey) mom. But my kids have turned into terrific men, and I suspect that if there is a mother of grown children out there who thinks she did a 100% terrific job 100% of the time, she’s probably a psychopath 😉

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  2. Oh how I need this right now …right now on this present stretch of pavement with my husband deployed. Thank you for sharing! And just so you know, you’re not alone in looking back on the years with your children and wishing you had been more patient, present etc…. I, too, feel this way all the time. I often try to give young mothers this advice without sounding trite. Yet I remember those days and as a young mother of three boys, most days I was just trying to survive the day, get them to all the places they needed to be on time, homework done and prevent them from killing one another! Lol But yes, oh how I wish I could’ve seen and known the path that was ahead of us back then. Life is a beautiful journey isn’t it?

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  3. I love that quote!
    You really hit home with the thoughts about mothering too. I feel like I could have/should have been a much better and more nurturing mother. But somehow, the kid turned out pretty darn good despite me. We can laugh about it now as she negotiates her way through her own time with children!

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    • Somehow most of them turn out great despite our bumbling. I am sure you were always a loving and attentive mother. That’s just who you are. Grandchildren are the best revenge! 🙂

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  4. This was beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing! My heart broke for you as I read the story of the pancakes!!! You are so right, what we do today matters, oh so very much!!! Thank you for the reminder!

    Thanks for linking up @LiveLifeWell!

    Blessings,

    Amy

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